Ratting versus telling: there is a difference
Ratting is done to get others in trouble.
Ratting hopes to create a problem for someone else.
Telling is done to get help, to take care of yourself or someone else.
Telling tries to solve a problem.
Ratting says "I want to hurt!"
Telling says "Please help!"
12:00pm Bullying prevention tips: Prevention ideas and tips for parents
Make a plan
Creating an action plan is the first step to addressing bullying, whether you are an educator working with a student being bullied, a parent looking for ways to help your child, or a student who wants to take action.
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Bullying prevention tips: Prevention ideas and tips for parents
Talk to your child
Many times, a parent’s first involvement in bullying prevention begins at home when they are concerned that their child may be a target of bullying. Talking to your child about this subject in a helpful way is an important first step. A 2010 study reported that 64 percent of children who were bullied did not report it; only 36 percent reported bullying, so opening the lines of communication is critical.
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Bullying prevention tips: Prevention ideas and tips for parents
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Children can have many reasons for not telling their parents. They may fear an “overreaction,” be embarrassed or ashamed, feel responsible, or think it won’t do any good. They might simply find it hard to talk about anything, or think it’s not “macho” to tell. Some children may not realize that they are being bullied. You might need to ask some indirect questions, such as:
• How was gym class today?
• Who did you sit by at lunch?
• You seem to be feeling sick a lot and want to stay home. Please tell me about that.
• Are kids making fun of you?
• Are there a lot of cliques at school? What do you think about them?
When children choose to tell their parents about bullying, parents might respond in a manner that isn’t helpful. They might tell their child to stand up to the bully; tell their child to ignore and avoid the bully; or take matters into their own hands.
While these reactions all express genuine caring, concern, and good intentions, they are likely to be ineffective and can even have harmful consequences.
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Instead, parents should be ready to:
Listen. It’s your child’s story; let him or her tell it. Your child may be in emotional pain about the way he or she is being treated and needs your help.
Believe. The knowledge that a child is being bullied can be emotionally painful. To be an effective advocate, parents need to react in a way that encourages their child to trust them.
Be supportive. Tell your child it is not his fault and that he does not deserve to be bullied. Parents should empower their child and avoid judgmental comments about their child or the child who bullies. Your child may already be feeling isolated, and hearing negative statements from parents may only further isolate him.
Be patient. Children may not be ready to open up right away. Talking about the bullying may be difficult, as they may fear retaliation from the bully or believe that even if they tell an adult, nothing will change. Your child might be feeling insecure, withdrawn, frightened, or ashamed.
Provide information. Parents should educate their child about bullying by providing information at a level the child can understand.
Explore options for intervention strategies. Parents can discuss with their child options they may have in dealing with bullying behavior.
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